never stop trying

i'd glanced at this article about some woman who was on dr phil, heavy, then came back months later with much weight loss. her 1st appearance she said she blamed her father for her low self esteem, i dont remember why. nothing tragic, wasnt molested or anything, i think something about him judging her. when she came back to the show, she said she felt her blame was misplaced.

what's my point, ok, yeah, i love my parents & i got beef with them, like everyone does with their parents; but after a while, we have to take charge of our own lives and take responsibility for ourselves. those that know me may think this sounds funny as i am a staunch liberal and believer in affirmative action, women's rights, any program that assists underprivileged, under represented, under served populations. but it has to be a two way thing... you may get a little help, but what are you doing to help yourself? stop blaming, stop giving in, stop giving up, keep on going, keep on trying! and if you fall, acknowledge that you have more work to do. then get up and do it. i hope that months or years from now, people will see this webpage about me going from 252 to 130 and be inspired, but god please dont think jc is the answer. jc is my help, but it's me doing this. no weight loss program will work until you take charge. see your shrink, pop some pills and hit the gym! just kidding. not really.

i'd read somewhere of some woman's "a-ha" moment, the moment she decided to really work and lose her weight. she was at a book signing for some fitness guru that was on oprah, and the woman ahead of her was saying "how am i supposed to fit in exercise, i've got two kids, i have to cook for my husband, i work, etc etc." and the Guru just looked at her and said, "you're not ready to lose weight." he signed the next book & went on about his business. kind of cold. but completely right.